Friday, December 16, 2005

Making promises or saying the word "never" can both be problematic...

Well I've done it again. I know what I said, and now it's up to me to say what I mean: I'm sorry! I said I would continue this blog, writing religiously, presenting some inspiring words of wisdom that will keep me motivated if no one else. The thing is...when I make these promises I generally end up breaking them. Darn it! Darn it! Darn it! I even put my obligation of the blog in one of the three planners I own. The problem is I forget to look at my planners simply because I have a datebook on my computer that helps keep me organized. Well, I'm on my computer every single day, so it just made sense to look at my computer for those very important "things to remember," the problem being that I generally make appointments in my planners when I'm out and about but then forget to add them to my computer datebook. Duh??? Am I a blonde or what?? Okay, I really didn't mean to offend anyone, especially those intellectual blondes that I know exist!

Okay, now that I've said I'm sorry for failing to keep my word about keeping up with my blog, I would like to add to it: I'm sorry to all those people who have helped me achieve what I've achieved only to turn my back on them. I absolutely admit my faults and realize now more than ever that communication is the key -- the lack thereof will certainly create problems and hopefully the initiation of conversation through relationship-building processes will begin to fix the problems I created. Many people have assisted me in my musical endeavors and I was responsible for making bad choices along the way. Now I feel stronger and am certainly more capable of making choices that are to everyone's benefit.

I feel extremely fortunate to have had the opportunity to work with the various professionals in the music business. I'm proud of where I've come from and where I'm going. I hope I have the opportunity to communicate my sincere appreciation to those who've stood by me and helped me along the way. To you all, I thank you!

A blogging I will go, a blogging I will go, I'm so embarr -- i -ous, a blogging I will go!

Catch ya later! But I refuse to PROMISE to be back tomorrow or say I will NEVER not write again, but I can't PROMISE such a thing as it's not something I would ever (NOT NEVER, though) say!

1 comment:

Stephanie said...

I read through your blog entries and I have to say, I am quite perplexed. You say you have "turned your back on people that have helped you with your endeavors", yet through previous post you talk about how wonderful all the people that surround you are and how grateful and thankful you were to have them. Then you turn your back on them? Why, was their purpose done? Did they get you as far as they personally were capable? Did someone who could do more come along? How can you be thankful for them one minute and the next turn your back on them. That sounds seriously like using the people around you.

I am simply curious. You say "lack of conversation" was the issue. Yet according to previous entries, you are an educator. I take that to mean a teacher. Isn't that one thing they teach you as you are preparing to be a teacher? Communication is the key to everything. How can you teach someone that when you don't understand it yourself? Also, you apologize to these people in your blog. If you turned your back on them do you really think they read your blog? Doubtful. Yet you say you learned this great lesson on better communication. I would say, you haven't. You think you are important enough that people you have "turned your back on" are going to be interested in following what you do?

It's just my personal opinion but I would say you have a lot to learn about communication. If you are pursuing a career in the media, which I guess by your blog you are, how far do you think you can go with not being able to communicate with people. You say your managing your own career? I am in management that is why I happened upon your blog. I can guarantee the fact that you need to learn alot about communication before you set out on that endeavor. The career your pursuing, involves building of professional relationships over a great amount of time. Believe it or not, most AR professionals in the music business do not speak or deal with the artist personally. In fact, they are very much against it. They communicate with Entertainment Attorneys, who communicate with Managers who communicate with the Artist. It will be very hard for you to be taken seriously as a self-managed artist.

I don't mean to offend you, but the fact you admitted to turning your back on people that have done nothing but help you makes you sound like a very selfish person. I hope that is not true for your sake. One should always remember, "What goes around, comes around". Based on past experiences, I can tell you that is 100% true. Yet those that helped you make out much better because....when you help someone it will come back to you 2-fold. I would say you need to think very carefully about which category you want to fall into.

I would start by apologizing to those you have stepped on, used, turned your back on, in person. Not hoping they will find your blog.

The next thing I would do is go out and get yourself a Manager. One who is not afraid to be told NO, patient in building of relationships which can take months or years. One who will go to bat for you and sometimes tell you things you don’t want to hear. A good Manager will be your worst nightmare when you are starting out and you are just another performer. They see your flaws they have no problem pointing them out and telling you to work on them. They can be the worse and the strictest Mother or Father in the world. Management will get you a lot further than you will be able to get yourself. I have been told NO alot. It doesn’t bother me, I move on to the next stop. An artist will get beaten down in this business. Because they have Executives that will tell them straight up, “Your not good enough” or “Your stinking up the place”, if they even give you the time of day in the first place. You hear that enough times as an artist and you start believing it. However, a good manager will take it in stride and move on to the next Artist Relations Executive. Because if they didn’t believe in you, they wouldn’t be managing you in the first place.

I wish you the best and hope you take my comments as constructive criticism.